According to Men's fitness magazine, it's no fun (and embarrassing for you) when it all ends pretty quickly. Top sexologists gave insights into 8 secret for having longer, better sex.
1. Study the Kama Sutra. There's a technique in the Kama Sutra for delaying ejaculation that basically comes down to training yourself.
2. Get out of your head. 'Performance anxiety is the number 1 killer of sustaining erection'. Shift your thinking into a more confident inner voice, as opposed to a worried voice.
3. Change things up. The best thing to do if you're close to the edge? Alter your speed. Try teasing her.
4. Slow down. Instead of the fast-paced jack-hammering style many men are so fond of, try taking your time.
5. Try a different kind of exercise. It's suggested that exercising the PC muscles, the ones that stretch from the anus to the unrinary sphincter helps. Daily PC muscle reps helps a guy to literally pump himself up. Squeezing those muscles triggers good blood flow to the penis, which in turn leads to mental confidence.
6. Practise the 7 & 9 method. Similar to Kama Sutra ( menthioned in 1 above), the 7 and 9 methods comes highly recommended. it's 7 fast in/out strokes, followed by 9 slow in/out strokes. This method is good for guys who don't last quite as long as their partner needs.
7. Don't go too deep. Alternating between shallow and deep thrusts can make you last longer and will make the experience more fun.
8. Squeeze. Men are encouraged to try the squeeze technique. There are three areas where applying pressure helps to maintain or sustain erection. '
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There are a lot of good techniques mentioned above. The squeeze technique which is applied at the base of the penis can be very effective if done firmly and at the correct time. Pulling the balls away from the body is also a good technique. They usually pull up right next to the body prior to orgasm, so pulling them back into their normal position, it does not hurt, will stop the man's orgasm. However, a cock ring can do one or both of these and your hands can be free to do other things.
ReplyDelete1. The most important part of lasting longer which is mentioned above is caring about your partner and her pleasure. Think of love making as a journey, not a destination.
2. Take time to play with your girl and make sure she is wet before you ever enter. This can include, kissing, touching, slowly undressing, and oral sex.
3. Once you enter her the wonderful feeling of being inside can easily have your forget your plan. Think about how wonderful you feel about her and how much you want her to feel wonderful and pleased too. Focus! It is about her.
4. Tell her how beautiful and wonderful she looks as well as how much you care for her. This usually encourages her to be vocal and that helps you know how turned on she is.
5. Change positions: You see in X rated films they change positions a lot? It is not always for the camera it is so the Actor will not orgasm too soon. (Similar to take breaks above)
6. Watch your girl and see what turns her on, notice her body and her breathing and keep doing what she likes.
7. The hardest thing for me is lasting through her orgasm. My best advice is to talk to her as she is enjoying her orgasm, encourage her to let go and enjoy herself. By focusing on her I find I can last through hers and save mine for later.
These are tips for men, but there are many tips for women too on helping their man last. It is important to remember as a couple you work through things together, help each other.
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Many Thanks for your insightful comments here ES.
ReplyDeleteHere are some thoughts and tips for women in helping their man last longer in bed.
ReplyDelete1. If your partner is having trouble lasting longer in bed, the best thing you can do is support him in a loving way. He will probably already feel bad, so do your best to make him feel better and that it does happen sometimes. Even better if he is able to talk to you about it and let you help out in several ways I list below. Most of all ladies do not blame yourself, you can help but it is not your fault.
2. What is your goal in intercourse? If it is mutual orgasm for example than you can help out by making sure he knows what pleases you, when you are getting close, etc. This is where you can really help, but you need to know your own body. If not, then explore with your partner, before intercourse.
3. Get to know your man. While I see on TV and the internet how important it is for a man to know a woman's anatomy, I feel the same is true for women. Learn to give your man oral or manual stimulation and learn what turns him on. Watch him when he is getting close, and when he orgasms, all of those signs will be present during intercourse. But not just his penis, look at areas on his whole body and what turns him on.
Example: Firm pressure and up and down movement of a woman's hand on my penis will cause me to eventually orgasm. Not all guys are the same, but this is probably true for most men. So when they enter the woman for the first time she is naturally tight (the firm pressure) and begin thrusting (the same as the up and down movement) they are set up to orgasm fairly quickly.
4. Once you learn what turns your man on, then you can use that knowledge to help him last longer. If he really enjoys your breasts, keep them in your lingerie until you are ready for him to orgasm. Regarding 3 above, have him enter you only after you are very wet, and you will not be as tight. Move your hips and do some side to side thrusting while he is deep inside. In this way there is less in/out movement so he will last longer.
5. Positions. Explore different positions and you may find ones that he lasts longer than others. For me the doggie position is one I don't last too long at, so I avoid it until near the end of our play. The cowgirl position is great for the woman because she can be on top, control the thrusting, like side to side movement or grinding that I mentioned above. Also she can grab her man's balls and lightly pull them away from his body to help him last longer.
6. Maybe consider starting off with oral to orgasm. His 2nd orgasm will take much longer and cause him to last longer. Or have him give you an oral orgasm and then when he enters you, he is mind is at ease that the goal then is not mutual orgasm just his orgasm and you can use techniques above to help him last longer.
7. Most of all communication is important. If you can talk about things it is much easier. There are so many things that he can do like cock rings and condoms that help but would be nice to have your approval and smile. It is all about pleasing someone you truly care for in the bedroom. It leads to some deep bonding I feel.
ES